Sunday, March 3, 2013

Whats Love got to do with it?

The problem I have with marriage .. and with my past life is that Love is not enough.  Love is not all you need.  And Love will not make a marriage work.

 I don't know who wrote the song but he was selling a line of bullshit.

But as I move away from my old life ... Hate is not enough either.  I just don't want to hate.  I just  can't hate.  I have had so many bad experiences over the past year .. yet I still feel love for these people who used to be close to me.

I have been lied too, betrayer, cheated on, stole from, mislead, gossiped about about, plotted against, arrested, and after all that is said and done .. I still miss her and love her.

I am not sure if this makes me pathetic or just dependent.

For every one thing I can say about my ex I still know deep in my soul that there are 20 great things about her that I can say as well.  SO how do I move on?

I've made the decision lately.  With the help of my last GF (who is amazing btw)  I am such a fucking wreck that I do not wish to ruin anyone life by trying to start a romantic relationship with them.  No one deserves me and the hell I go thru nightly.  I think the reason I look for a relationship is purely selfish. 

So out of respect for the people I may meet I have decided to not date for the undetermined future.

Not because I still love my Ex; because I still love all three of them.

Not because I want to focus on my kids .. because as much as I love them ... I am still unable to see them.

Simply because I still have yet to find an answer to what does Love really have to do with relationships.  The success and the failure of a relationship is far more complicated than just loving them.

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