No one did anything to you.

Robert said that to me.

No one did anything to you.

Evidently some believe that because I am not good at giving attention and because I desire to be on line instead of in the world ... that I should be divorced.

Evidently some believe that a man of 39 who attempts to befriend a girl of 19 is sick and disgusting and deserves to be socially evicted.

but someone still did something to me.

I made a mistake 17 years ago.  I never paid the legal price.  I made a mistake with my X wife; and the price I paid is all of my assets and my two awesome boys.  And I understand instructors should not date students but .. the rule was never expressed and there was never a date and I never even talked to her or ever tried to approach her about a sexual topic.

 With the last one I am being punished for a crime that did not happen.  I am being punished because Robert likens it to me dating a 15 yr old. 

Sure its fine for Robert to date Melinda; a girl who is 18 years younger than him; but if I even talk with a girl who is that young it is because I am a pedofile.

No; someone did do something to me.  Robert was spending time with my wife while I was married.  That is severely inappropriate.  Just because you did not fuck her till the date of the divorce does not mean a thing.

Because there was a certain time when you stopped being my friend who I could tell things in confidence, and she stopped being my wife who I could tell things in confidence; and you two choose each other over me.

She told you things that she believed were true.  You took her poor knowledge of the internet and computers as a truth.  All her Gossip, all her drama you bought in to.

The truth us that I hate pedophiles so deeply I am always searching for them.  The fact is that I do not think I could control my disgust near pedophiles.  The fact is I almost killed myself because I believed I was a pedophile.

I never understood how two separate people who I loved dearly could have independent theories of me being so vile.  But than as I went to handle it and end the problem I found out .. you two were not independent.  She was telling you lies and you believed her and formed your own opinions.

I worked hard for year for years in your gym.  I have worked with children and have never ever thought of harming them.  Now .. with your two accusations I may never work with kids again.

Its just not right.  Some one did do something to me.  I am not guilty of everything that has come my way.  No one deserves to be in the hell you two have put me thru.