How to stop your wife from cheating on you.

I am sure if I knew what I know now 8 years ago I would have acted back then much differently.

When I was married; I found out that my wife had cheated on me by sneaking on her cell phone and checking her texts.  Not only does this show a lack of trust it also demonstrates a complete lack of personal privacy that every is entitled. 

Checking email, logging on and reading her facebook, and searching her texts are all methods that I used in order to "stop" my ex wife from cheating on me.  It did not work.  It stopped her for a time; well with that ranger at least.  But what I needed was a sure fire method ... something so crazy it just might work.

In short .. the way to stop your wife from cheating on you is twofold.  One choose a good woman with strong moral standards with whom you feel you can live the rest of your life.  And two and much more importantly;  live each day as if it was your last with her.

Don't take her for granted.  Don't skip on spending time with her because you believe that you will have plenty of time.  Make each day a mission to show her how you feel and to not let her question at anytime your feelings for her.

My life didn't cheat on me because she needed sex.  She didn't cheat on me for money, or for drugs or for any other reason save one.

My actions or in-actions made her cheat.  I am responsible for 99% of the indiscretion.  At that time of my life I was spending all day everyday at the gym.  I was playing video games whenever I was not at the gym.  I was focused on my son, I was focused on t he Army reserves ... I was focused on 100 other items but her.

For some time I think I blamed our divorce on my Aspie nature.  No one wants to be married to someone who is anti social.  I am contradictory, argumentative, passive ...I enjoy too much alone time.  I want structure and routine in my life.  I make social errors daily and speak at all times with a sarcastic tone.  I have no friends and and not capable of normal relationships.

But despite all these things .. she still loved my at one point.  it wasn't all my flaws that turned her away.  It was my actions.  I chose other things instead of her.  I chose the divorce.

Now I can not say with any certainty that had I known these things 8 years ago that I would have done anything different; but at least I can see what was the downfall in my relationship.  And I can see why she was attracted to Robert.  He is a good listener.  He is patient.