What do you get your best friend on her wedding day?

The wedding day is getting closer.  And she is happier than she ever has been in her life.  I at one time was her best friend and now am a terrible memory.

I am still hurt inside emotionally but I do have to make a decision.

What do I get my best friend on her wedding day?

It was easy last time.  We were young it was "our" wedding day.  I still remember what she looked like in her dress. She was so proud. She stood up there like and angel and everyone marveled at her beauty.  She was in her mind thinking that the whole world was hers and that she had found an ideal existence.

Unfortunately my nature over the period of 11 years would tarnish this.

Now she has found a new best friend and a new husband.  She is moving on with her life; and all I can assume is that me in her life will undoubtedly complicate all the matters.  She has two children and soon will have two more.  They have a home and cars and jobs and a business and all the making of a family.

All my presence does it deter that.  I think my presence in the children's life may be non beneficial.  I am unsure what is the best for the children.  But I think I may have found out what is best for her.

I have heard it so many times in my life ...

"If you love something set it free.  If it returns than it was truly yours and if it never does .."

Well .. than I guess its someone else's.  So maybe the best thing for her on her wedding day .. is to drop all negativity about her.  To drop all arguments and complicated feelings.  To forget her and to forget our past life together.  The best gift will be to leaver her alone and let her continue with her life as best she can and simply be happy that she is happy in herself with her new life.

So now I have a goal and set out to see if my heart can perform what my mind requests.

I wish them the best of luck.  He is her chance at having a happy normal life.  He is my son's chance and seeing what an normal male adult behaves like.  I think maybe that is what is best for the Aspie child.  To be surrounded  by NT.  To live in a NT life. be surrounded by people although not like him who love him and have great concern for him.

And for her .. a new start.  A relationship with someone who is able to communicate and express emotion.  Someone who is able to pick up on ques and no how to respond when she needs affection or needs attention or needs to be listened to.  And who is able to understand the difference when what time is what. He can be someone who supports her in her career paths and supports her in everything she does, and not question or investigate her thoughts or motives.  Someone who is not abusive like I have been.

So what do you get your Best friend of 14 years for her Wedding Day?  I guess sometimes it's silence.