I have been struggling with an issue for a very long long time. My ex is now married. Mr Owens is now a step father. And my kids have been away from me for a year.
Ms. Owens is not letting the children see their grandmother. She writes
"Because of how you have treated me and how you have not taken my concerns seriously and even threatened to sue me and take me to court, I do not feel comfortable with you seeing the boys at this time. Your emailing my mom and saying you will come see them is I don't reply, only makes me feel more certain of my decision at this time. The boys are do better than ever. If you want to earn my trust feel free to do so through mailing the boys using my parents address. Otherwise please discontinue the emails and calls. Thank You."
Very well thought out and cruel. Using the kids in an argument against their grandmother makes me feel hopeless.
What happens when my term is up and I now have custody of the kids? Will she allow me to see them? Will she create a new stories to find a way for me to not see them? Will she call CPS ? The police?
What lengths will she go thru to make others feels pain using the kids as her weapon.
At this point I do not know if me fighting to see them will be beneficial. I think the children would have been better off if their father killed himself 3NOV12.
I used to listen to the Blink 182 lyrics with me as the child.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1BFHYtZlAU
... but now I put myself in my children's shoes. It is better to see your father if all your mother and father do is fight?I truly to do not want to hurt my kids. I want them to have the best upbringing possible. I am just afraid it is without me. I am afraid that If her rebound raises them as a step father they might grow up well adjusted.
I am afraid that all this sadness and pain I feel because I miss my kids is simple selfishness. If you love something let it go right? Does this include children?
I don't wish to fight with her. I want what is best for my kids.
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